it is so hard when you cannot fix it. Char wants a friend to sleep over tonight but the one she wanted cannot come. I keep telling her she needs to widen her scope of friends and ask new people over to get to know them but it is so hard for her. I feel bad because she tells me she is so lonely most of the time. And it is not something I can fix. I asked her if she wanted to do something and she said, "no offense, Mom, but I really want to do something with someone my own age." I totally get it too.
I would get so mad at my dad when he would say stuff like that to me about broadening my circle of friends. I was/am so shy that it just wasn't within my ability to be the outgoing one. I guess I have been blessed in life to have at least one person reach out to me everytime we moved.
So sorry that she is feeling lonely that is so hard for her, and for you. ((hugs))
She used to have a bunch of friends when she was younger but she pulled back for some reason. I think it was because she is younger and smaller and kids made fun of her? Not sure. So I guess I shouldn't tell her to make an effort? I don't do in in a mean way either. I just want her to have more to choose from. It is why posting things on here is good!! I don't want to make her feel worse!!
I don't think it's wrong to remind her that she needs to put forth some effort too. Just remind her that some of the other girls might feel just like she does. I'm always giving Lillianne that extra push. Camille doesn't need it. She's more sociable.
Their friends will change as they change. I always tell my girls this. It's not always about something that they did or didn't do to end the friendship. Thankfully Lillianne realizes this already. Camille still takes every little thing that her friends say or do to heart.