carpe scrapum
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10-01-12 01:15 PM - Post#4015546
While talking about one of our cousins' bitter view on someone else's good fortune my sil told me that she doesn't view me different for having "married well". Eh, did you just call me a gold digger? Because it sure as heck doesn't feel like that. Unless I mistake housekeeping and hands on child rearing, not to mention waiting hand and foot on my husband the life of a princess. Wait, let's back up. You are right, I do have the life of a princess. I'm treated with respect, showered with gifts and live a wonderful life. And, yes, I married well. Sorry you didn't, but I would like to remind you that this life comes free not at all. In fact, I can assure you that by the time I go to bed each day I am properly pained and tired from working my butt off to ensure that my husband also feels that he "married well". I know my truth and it certainly it is not something I need to defend.
I wish I could think faster when I'm insulted!!!
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Kiwifarmer
SJ Eloquent One
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10-01-12 01:20 PM - Post#4015550
In response to carpe scrapum
I know that feeling!!!! But a comeback ten minutes later just does not work does it?
I love what you said about your life.... Very well put! I must remember that for when people tell me I live a "charmed" life.
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kaleidoscope
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10-01-12 01:49 PM - Post#4015552
In response to Kiwifarmer
'Married well' is a matter of perspective. You could marry a rich person and have a lousy marriage while a person who married well is one who manages to get by but is very happily married and feels blessed.
Friends aren't people you particularly like for any special reason. You just like people because they're your friends.
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RedSquirrel
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10-01-12 01:51 PM - Post#4015554
In response to Kiwifarmer
People only say those snide things when they are feeling jealous. That means you both make a great job of hiding it when things are not easy, and in public you are always cheerful and appreciative of what you have. I say that means you've got the stiff upper lip and the "keep calm and carry on" down to a fine art.
Nobody is without problems and worries. Money doesn't take them away. Nobody has exactly what they want, and money doesn't help there either. But the grass is always greener and so people think that other people have it better.
I think I win the prize for stuffing as many cliches into one post as possible.  But they are true, none-the-less.
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Oscar T. Grouch
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10-01-12 01:52 PM - Post#4015556
In response to kaleidoscope
I married well and am proud of it; why would you be ashamed.
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carpe scrapum
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10-01-12 02:04 PM - Post#4015562
In response to Oscar T. Grouch
I wish there was a like button for all your comments girls! What I really want to say when people say my life is all roses and rainbows is "here, this is a list of all the sh!t I went through to get to where I am today. I'm sure you might be shocked to learn some things you did not know and are more comfortable to learn about only in the evening news. Sorry, the badges I like to wear are only the ones I'm happy I earned."
While I feel sorry for some things that happened in my life, I also realize that they were necessary to the forming of this person I call ME. I'm not easily offended but I can't promise I won't unleash my crazy when people question the value of my being in this marriage/ By the way, Greg was so happy I stood up to his sister. Even if I wasn't as eloquent as I wished LOL
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Beth Ann
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10-01-12 02:15 PM - Post#4015564
In response to carpe scrapum
How terribly annoying.
Enjoy Life 
Beth Ann (L+Hmom)
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Kiwifarmer
SJ Eloquent One
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10-01-12 03:17 PM - Post#4015576
In response to Beth Ann
In fact I did not "marry well" dh was a bum but I loved him nonetheless.  What I did marry was a man who worked hard once he found his niche and has been a fantastic provider for us ever since. I want for nothing and I feel truly blessed. Life has been a struggle to get where we are, and hard work and long hours have started to pay dividends. Why can't people be respectful of that? There is a lot of stuff that goes onI behind the scenes of any successful marriage isn't there? My sisters hubby is bit jealous of us and what we have achieved.... But if he got off his butt and pulled finger he could have been more successful too. Life is what you make of the crap that's thrown at you. You can wallow in the mire or pick up and learn from it.
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Drama Mamas Mama
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10-01-12 07:43 PM - Post#4015644
In response to Kiwifarmer
Imagine all the comments I got when I had a stay at home husband!
I feel your pain.
Beth
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3 Little Ladies
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10-02-12 12:54 PM - Post#4015778
In response to kaleidoscope
'Married well' is a matter of perspective. You could marry a rich person and have a lousy marriage while a person who married well is one who manages to get by but is very happily married and feels blessed.
ITA!
Jen (*lilcamsmom)
Married to my HS sweetheart
SAHM to my 3 little ladies (13,11, & 5)
NO I'M NOT GOING TO TRY FOR A BOY!!!!!
Don't cry because it's over. Smile because it happened. -Dr. Suess
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scrappydappydoodler
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10-02-12 03:45 PM - Post#4015822
In response to 3 Little Ladies
I married well. We're poor as church mice but I wouldn't trade him for anything. He loves me and thinks I'm the most beautiful girl in the world. He takes care of me, doesn't get any better than that. We're happy and as long as you are happy the rest will be ok.
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